I Don’t Plan Trips to Get Away… I Plan Them So Life Feels Better When I Come Back
It Didn’t Start the Way I Thought It Would
I used to think travel was about getting away.
From the stress.
From the noise.
From everything waiting for me at home.
But the truth is…
the best trips I’ve ever taken didn’t help me escape my life.
They helped me come back to it differently.
This Trip Was Different
We just got back from a two-week cruise with friends and family.
And if I’m being honest… I needed it more than I realized.
Life at home had been stacking up.
Work felt heavy.
The house felt loud.
My brain felt full.
So instead of planning something packed and busy,
we did the opposite.
We chose a longer cruise.
More time.
More space.
More room to breathe.
And yes… maybe a few too many port days (lesson learned),
but in between those, there was something I hadn’t had in a while.
Time to just be.
Time to sit with Jamie without rushing off to the next thing.
Time to talk, laugh, wander, or do absolutely nothing.
Time to think without immediately needing to solve anything.
And somewhere in all of that…
I reset.
Just enough to feel like myself again.
How I Plan Now
When I plan trips now, I think about them differently.
Not:
“How much can we fit in?”
But:
“How do I want to feel while I’m there… and when I come back?”
That changes everything.
It means:
Leaving space in the schedule
Choosing walkable, easy locations
Not overloading every single day
Building in time to sit, reflect, and connect
Because the goal isn’t to come home exhausted with great pictures.
It’s to come home lighter.
Finding Our Spot
This might sound simple… but it matters.
We always find “our spot.”
On this cruise, it was a quiet area where we could sit with a drink,
watch the ocean, and just exist for a minute.
No pressure to be doing something.
No agenda.
Just a place where we knew we could land.
Those little anchor spots become part of the reset.
Things I’ve Learned Along the Way
A few things I’ve learned the hard way:
Not every port needs to be an excursion
You don’t have to say yes to everything
Rest is part of the plan, not a break from it
The best conversations don’t happen when you’re rushing
Sometimes the best part of the trip is the part you didn’t plan.
We’re actually planning our Reds weekends the same way now — less packed, more intentional.
What I’d Go Back For
Not just places… but feelings.
I’d go back for:
Slow mornings with nowhere to be
Laughing at dinner without checking the time
That feeling when your shoulders finally drop
Real conversations that don’t get cut short
That’s the part I want again.
What Travel Really Does for Me
I don’t plan trips to get away from my life anymore.
I plan them so I can come back to it better.
More patient.
More present.
Less overwhelmed.
Because travel, for me, isn’t an escape hatch.
It’s a reset button.
And honestly…
It’s become one of the best ways I’ve found
to take care of the life I’ve already built. 💛
If you’ve been feeling that pull too…
I’ve started putting together a few trips (some simple, some a little bigger)
and you can join the interest list here:👉 Join the Reset and Roam Trip List
No pressure, just a way to see what we’re planning.
Travel Isn’t Our Escape — It’s How We Maintain Our Marriage
There was a time when we thought travel was an escape.
A reward after a busy season. Something fun to look forward to when life slowed down.
But somewhere along the way, Jamie and I realized something different.
Travel isn’t our escape anymore.
It’s our maintenance plan.
Life has been busy lately. Really busy.
Work has been intense. Our house has been full. There are schedules, responsibilities, family things, and the quiet emotional weight that comes with trying to support the people you love.
None of those things are bad. In fact, many of them are the things we care about most.
But when life gets full like that, something subtle can happen in a relationship.
You start running side by side instead of actually being together.
You pass each other in the hallway.
You talk about logistics.
You solve problems.
But the space for long conversations, laughter, and noticing each other gets smaller.
That’s where travel comes in for us.
Not as an escape.
As maintenance.
When we travel, the noise of everyday life gets quieter.
There are no laundry baskets waiting.
No dishes in the sink.
No reminders popping up on our phones.
Just time.
Time to talk.
Time to wander.
Time to sit somewhere with coffee and ask each other the kinds of questions we don’t always ask at home.
Sometimes those conversations are light.
Sometimes they’re bigger ones.
Questions like:
Are we doing too much right now?
Is this pace sustainable?
What actually matters most in this season of life?
Travel creates the space for those conversations.
And honestly, those conversations are one of the most valuable parts of the trip.
Right now we’re getting excited for our upcoming cruise.
It’s not about checking destinations off a list. It’s about something much simpler.
A few days to reset.
A few days to remember what it feels like to slow down together.
A few days where we can reconnect without the constant pull of everyday responsibilities.
Over the years we’ve learned something important.
Connection doesn’t maintain itself automatically.
You have to protect it.
For us, travel is one of the ways we do that.
It’s not an escape plan.
It’s our maintenance plan.
And honestly, that realization is part of what has made us start thinking differently about the kinds of trips we want to plan in the future.
Trips that make space for connection.
Trips where people can slow down, laugh together, and remember why they like each other in the first place.
We’re even starting to explore a few ideas like that this year, including a small Reds baseball weekend in Cincinnati.
Nothing complicated. Just a fun, relaxed trip with good people.
If that kind of travel sounds like something you’d enjoy, you can join the newsletter and I’ll share details when they come together.
But whether you ever travel with us or not, I’ll leave you with the question Jamie and I ask ourselves often.
What protects connection in your busiest season?
Because whatever that thing is for you…
It’s probably worth protecting.
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